By Chanel September

Good Day! How are you doing? I hope that you well and oh so good. I hope that you are feeling lovely and so wonderful on what I would like to think of as a beautiful Wednesday morning… Let just say despite the slight change in temperature the weather is still beautiful even though there has been a dramatic turn around, but we not complaining because it of course springish weather…Just a reminder that today in fact is the 20th of August 2008…So it’s our ladies morning and we’re in the middle of the week and I must say I’m loving it… loving this Wednesday and the fact that from 9 right until 12 its all about the ladies… and I would love you to take part in the show sharing you experiences and why you love being a women…

Moving onto today’s show we had all the usuals such as you’re Word of the Day, your SA Q&A, and you’re Tip of the Day.

Today’s interviews were with:

* Hanelie Westrat from the Mowbray Police Station and she has been appointed the new Head of Detectives Unit at the station and she spoke to us about her career the joys, the highs and lows touching on being a women and what it means to her in society today.

* We also spoke to Abafanzi Bebonke from Women Together which is a organisation for women by women…so she spoke to us about some of the things that they do in their community and especially for women.

* Betty Mathibela and she spoke to us about some of the amazing and wonderful things that she does in her community as she’s a community worker helping those in need.

Word of the Day:

TACIT - understood without being openly expressed

Trivial Question:

Q: Name the author of Confession of a Gambler?
A: Rayda Jacobs

Tip of the Day:

So I hope that you thought about your body and your self image there of… So you know that feeling many of us had it before we wish we had a smaller stomach, better legs or that we were thinner so that we can go into that bikini…now you know that summer is coming up so it’s even worst because you can’t hide anything…So I’ve got a few pointers on ways to improve your overall body image, which will be an integral part of the recovery process. Everyone should feel good about their body, no matter what size you are…

1. Wear clothes you feel comfortable in - Don’t wear clothes that feel too tight or restrict movement. Don't hold off on buying clothes you like -- do it now! Dress to express yourself, not to impress others. You should feel good in what you wear.

2. Stay away from the scale - as a matter of fact, get rid of it! If your weight needs to be monitored, leave that up to the doctors. How much you weigh should never affect your self-esteem or your sense of who you are.

3. Before you look in the mirror, think optimistically - When you start your day, decide how you are feeling before going to the mirror. No one looks good with bed-head, and our moods aren't determined by the reflection we see. Start your day with self-affirmations, relax in a hot shower, think of all the positive ways you will cope with any stresses of the day ahead, and think of the things you have to be thankful for in your life... only then are you more prepared to face yourself with pride.

4. Talk to yourself at the mirror - Focus on what you like and remind yourself that it's okay to like and appreciate what you see, no matter what size you are.

5. Make a "why I like myself" list - Think of all the things about YOU that you like -- are you honest? Creative? Intelligent? Compassionate? Loyal? Kind? Think of all the reason you deserve to love yourself and write them down. Hang the list up next to the mirror as a reminder that these things are what make you truly beautiful.

6. Take the time to do nice things for your body - One a month get a massage, a manicure, or a facial. Pamper yourself to long hot baths by candlelight. Get together with a friend and give each other pedicures. Buy lotions that feel and smell good and treat yourself to some perfume or body mist. Take naps when you need to, just because you can!

7. Take risks to challenge yourself - Think of things you normally wouldn't do and try them (you'll find out that the world won't cave in) -- leave the house without makeup, get a wild new haircut (how many years have you had that same hairdo???), spend all day in your pajamas or go out to run an errand in them. The point is, your makeup, hair and clothes do not make you who you are! Prove it!

8. Stay alert to fighting negative self-talk - When that little voice of doom pops up in your mind trying to remind you how horrible you think you are, have a strategy for turning those negatives to positives. No one is perfect! When you find yourself being self critical immediately stop and pay yourself a compliment!

9. Stay active - Movement therapy is something that helps improve everyone's sense of being. Take up Yoga or Tai' Chi. Join a Karate class. Take a thirty-minute walk three days a week. Get outside and play volleyball with the kids or go rollerskating in the park with your friends. Take a leisurely bike ride at sunrise. Make angels in the snow and sandcastles at the beach. Be active and enjoy life!

10. Ask for a hug when you need it - Sometimes there is no better therapy then a hug and a kind word from someone that cares about you, but our loved-ones aren't mind readers! Tell them when you're having a bad day and ask for a hug, a shoulder to lean on, or an ear to listen.

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Quote of the Day:

Muriel Strode – Do not follow where the path may lead. Go instead where there is no path and leave a trail

It’s time for me to love and leave you. You must have oh so super Wednesday. Let’s chat again tomorrow…Much Love…Peace.