Wednesday, September 16, 2009

What are the questions we hate to be asked by the opposite sex in a relationship? That’s what MC explored

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GENDER HUB WEDNESDAY
By Denisia Adams


WORD OF THE DAY
REFULGENT

shining brightly; radiant; gleaming:

Crystal chandeliers and gilded walls made the opera house a refulgent setting for the ball.

SA TRIVIA QUESTION
Which South African, in 1979, became the first ever woman to win a Formula One motor race?

Answer: Desiree Wilson

DID YOU KNOW (http://www.didyouknow.org/)
The youngest active system of governance is communism, which was introduced in 1848 by Friedrich Engels and Karl Marx. ALSO DID YOU KNOW In gambling language, for a gambling house a "sure-thing" is a wager that a player has little chance of winning; "easy money" is their profit from an inexperienced bettor, an unlucky player is called a "stiff."

TIP OF THE DAY
How to Cure Fatigue

Chronic fatigue is one of the major causes of stress and health problems today. With our ever-increasing workloads and long hours spent behind the computer, many of us don't get the proper amount of sleep each night. If you are suffering from extreme fatigue, you probably suffer from multiple health problems. Learn how to cure fatigue naturally and effectively.
Step 1
Have a pre-sleep ritual. Many people head straight from checking email into bed. This not only heightens your stress level, you may not be able to rest because of the increased excitement you experienced pre-bedtime. A pre-sleep ritual could include a hot bath, a glass of warm milk or a good book you keep on your nightstand.
Step 2
Eat properly. One of the best ways to curb fatigue is to eat plenty of nutrient-rich foods. Fruits, vegetables, lean meats and whole grains are all excellent sources of vitamins and minerals.
Step 3
Make a schedule. Allow ample time to complete your household chores, work and other responsibilities. Stick to that schedule in order to avoid being overworked.
Step 4
See your doctor. Your primary care physician may refer you to a specialist or run tests on you. They may even be able to prescribe you sleep medication.
Step 5
Get fresh air. Throughout your work day, head outside for a dose of sunshine and fresh outdoor air. It will do wonders for your senses and overall well-being.
Step 6
Exercise. One of the best ways to increase your energy levels is by getting enough physical exercise.

WE ALSO FEATURED:
Susan Erasmus from Health24. Today on Gender Hub Wednesday we discussed the kind of questions women hate and why as well as the questions men hate and why. This was in the plight to bring a better understanding of eachother and hopefully learn to respect eachother more. Here are the articles written by Susan Erasmus:

5 questions all women hate and why?
Let’s face it, women have the ability to read much more into a question than is meant.
For instance, a guy asks what the time is, and she hears, “I’m bored, I want to leave, I wonder if this relationship is working for me, I think I may be able to escape in the next few minutes, I wonder what I am doing here?” He wanted to know what the time was, because he needs to take his tablet an hour after supper.
So what do the following questions mean to women?

Are you going to be much longer? She hears : Here I am sitting on my backside waiting in the car, while you are packing the baby’s bag, sorting out the dog, wrapping the birthday present, dealing with YOUR mother’s phonecall, setting the alarm and locking the house. What is taking you so long?Why does this question irritate women?This question merely reveals your husband/boyfriend’s complete lack of understanding about what it takes to get ready to go on the road. And this is what makes women angry. Leave it to the man in your life, and you will arrive at the party without a present, without clean nappies for the baby, and to top it all, a call from the alarm company, saying the armed response says the dog is trotting around inside the house and they hope that is what set off the alarm.
Don’t you think you should start running again? She hears : You are getting fat and I think it is because you are not getting enough exercise. Pick up two more kilo’s and I am out of here.Why does this question irritate women?It makes them feel that they are being prescribed to in how they should look, what they should wear in order to be found acceptable. Men just don’t understand that many women deal with baby blues or the difficult boss by eating a second slice of chocolate cake, followed by a cream caramel delight, rum ‘n raisin ice cream and rounded off with a sweetie pie.
What’s for supper?She hears: Your place is in the kitchen. I don’t care if your work a full day like I do, supper is your responsibility and I am hungry.Why does this question irritate women? It makes them feel as if the bulk of the household responsibilities is still theirs, even if they work fulltime or earn more than their husbands. Especially if they shopped for the food, cooked yesterday and put three loads of washing through the machine in the last 24 hours.
What was your previous boyfriend like?
She hears: I don’t like the thought of your being with anyone else, even if I didn’t know you then. I really want to hear that he was a right royal jerk, useless in bed, couldn’t hold down a job and generally disliked by all your family and friends.Why does this question irritate women?It makes them feel cornered – previous boyfriends are actually private territory and have nothing to do with present relationships. When women are hesitant to discuss previous relationships, men often react as if they are somehow being excluded and as if the woman has something to hide. We all have secrets and private things about which we don’t talk to anyone.
Who was that you were talking to?She hears: I don’t trust you. I don’t like you talking to other men. You’re mine, mine, mine and don’t you forget it. How much did that smile really mean?Why does this question irritate women? It makes them feel as if they are being treated like possessions and not human beings. Everyone needs friends and women certainly do not want to sleep with every man they smile at. Heavens, that would include the 72-year-old butcher on the corner.- (Susan Erasmus, Health24)

Questions all men hate and why?
Everything is coasting along smoothly and then she asks the QUESTION. It makes you feel as if you have just hit a brick wall. You also suddenly feel like some wild animal caught in the headlights of a large oncoming truck. Is there a way out?
Why do you think your last relationship didn’t work out?This is a trick question. If he says it was all his fault, it gives his new partner ammunition and if he says it was his old partner’s fault, it looks as if he thinks he is perfect and is just being nasty. Previous relationships are also private territory and unless the information is volunteered, it is best not to trespass there.

Possible answer: I obviously had less insight when I chose her than when I chose you.
When do you think we can get new curtains for the lounge? She means ‘sometime in the future’ and he thinks, “Oh heavens, she wants them tomorrow and we can’t afford them.” Frankly, he has never even noticed the curtains and probably wouldn’t be able to say what colour they were if you asked him somewhere he couldn’t see them. Questions like these turn up the financial pressure many men feel in relationships.

Possible answer: Money’s a bit tight now – where do you think we can save a little over the next few months so we can afford this?
Do you even know what day it is today?No you don’t, which is why she is asking. The terror evoked by this question is huge. Forgetting birthdays or anniversaries or St Valentine’s Day, can give your partner ammunition for weeks to come. Fill these days in on your desk calendar or programme them into your cellphone in advance. It is worth the trouble. When you forget a woman’s birthday, she hears the message loud and clear that you no longer love her or care for her – whether it is true or not.

Possible answer: Of course I do, but they could only do the delivery late this afternoon, so you’ll just have to be a little patient.
Do you think my best friend is attractive?Another trick question. She wouldn’t have asked unless she thought her friend was attractive. If you say that you do, you could be in serious trouble. If you say no, she will think you may be lying, or that you are just being nasty.

Possible answer: I can see why men would find her attractive, but there is a reason why I chose you and not her.
Where do you think our relationship is going?Uh-oh. This is a heart-stopper. Does she want a marriage proposal, an evaluation of the last week together, or just reassurance that you still find her attractive? Probably all three. This is where you have to tread carefully, especially if you are a bit commitment-phobic. Try and be honest as far as you can. There is no point in being manipulated into something just because you’re polite.

Possible answer: That’s not something I can decide by myself. And besides, I am not sure exactly what you mean by the question – can you clarify a little?
Do you enjoy being with your friends more than being with me?This is a deadly one. No one enjoys spending all their time with one person – everyone gets different things from different friends. We do need variety. In a certain sense the answer would be yes and in another no. You and your partner both need to accept that friends are an important part of your support structure and there is nothing wrong with enjoying their company.

Possible answer: I really do hope that the fact that you spend two nights a week with your friends doesn’t mean that you no longer love me?
What are you thinking?There is nothing that kills atmosphere like this question. People will share what they are thinking if they want to or feel the need to. Being asked is tantamount to an invasion of personal space. We all need our own private world of thoughts and feelings, no matter how close we are to each other.

Possible answer: I was thinking about how wonderful a cup of coffee would be right now. Would you like some? - (Susan Erasmus, Health24)

QUOTE OF THE DAY
James Oppenheim
The foolish man seeks happiness in the distance, the wise grows it under his feet.
That’s it for the Morning Cruise, where we cruise through your weekday here on BushRadio 89.5fm live on your stereo between 9am – 12pm with me Denisia Adams. Take Care ... make the best of your day and Keep the Faith. Stay Real!!!!!!!!!!

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