GENDER HUB WEDNESDAY
By Denisia Adams
WORD OF THE DAY
Appropriate or fitting; relevant.
Eg. Friends sometimes find that they are germane, or closely related, to each other.
(Shona Word) KUROTOMOKA
To sway completely off topic
SA TRIVIA QUESTION
Why was Rhodes Memorial built?
Answer: Built in remembrance of Cecil John Rhodes who contributed greatly to the formation of the sub continent, lies on the northern flank of Table Mountain, at the base of Devil’s Peak. Built on the site where Rhodes was said to sit and restlessly contemplate his future, the memorial was designed by Sir Francis Macey and Sir Herbert Baker, and built with money raised by the citizens of Cape Town.
DID YOU KNOW (www.didyouknow.org)
A car accident in 1983 left Rom Houben, a Belgian man, in what doctors believed was a vegetative state. In truth, Houben was conscious but paralyzed. Though he tried to shout, he was unable to make a sound. It sounds like a nightmare, but it was this man’s reality for 23 years. Only in 2006, when doctors used state-of-the-art imaging equipment to examine Houben, did they discover that his brain was active. Now able to communicate via a special keyboard, he is writing a book about his experiences.
TIP OF THE DAY
How to Find Yourself
Finding yourself is an enlightening experience. You become self-sufficient. You can do things for others without any expectations of return. You are no longer a needy child and you become utterly grateful for all those things people have done for you in the past. Finding yourself is a time of developing a philosophy or belief system that can carry you through the rest of your life.
Start with a clean slate. Develop your own moral conduct and practice sticking to it. Remove vice from your life. Smoking, over-eating, and over-drinking will prevent you from functioning at your peak. Remember, you can't drive your life forward if you are always gazing through your rear-view mirror!
Now that you have a clean slate and you realize some people still think you stink: Forget about what everyone else thinks! You cannot please everyone. While you might not want to disappoint the people close to you, they should want you to be happy. As long as you continue to exist to fulfill other people's ideas of who you should be, you'll never know your true talents. "He who trims himself to suit everyone will soon whittle himself away." - Raymond Hull
'Find solitude'. Get away from the expectations, the conversations, the noise, the media, and the pressure. Take some time each day to go for a long walk and think. Plant yourself on a park bench and look. Take a long, thoughtful road trip. Whatever you do, move away from anything that distracts you from contemplating your life and where you want it to go. In solitude, you should feel independent and self-sufficient, not lonely, needy or afraid.
Ask yourself every question in the book, questions that are difficult, that dare to look at the big pictures, such as:
o If I had all the resources in the world - if I didn't need to make money - what would I be doing with my day to day life and why? Perhaps you'd be painting, or writing, or farming, or exploring the Amazon rain forest. Don't hold back.
o What do I want to look back on in my life and say that I never regretted? Would you regret never having traveled abroad? Would you regret never having asked that person out, even if it meant risking rejection? Would you regret not spending enough time with your family when you could? This question can be particularly difficult for some people.
Write down your answers. Beyond your time alone, it's easy for these thoughts to slip to the back of your mind and be forgotten. If you have them written down, then every time you reflect, you can review your notes and take it a step further, instead of answering the same questions all over again.
Act upon your newly discovered knowledge. Do the things that you want to do! Pick up those water-colors. Write a short story. Plan a trip to Mombasa, Mt Kenya, a walk at Nairobi Safari Walk. Have dinner with a family member. Start cracking jokes. Open up. Tell the truth. Whatever it is that you've decided you want to be or do, start being and doing it now.
Be ready for dead ends. Finding yourself is a journey, not a destination. A lot of it is trial and error. That's the price you pay in return for the satisfaction you receive: More often than not, you hit a bump in the road, and sometimes you fall flat on your face. Be prepared to understand and accept that this is a part of the process, and commit to getting right back up and starting over. It's not going to be easy - it never has been for anybody - but if you learn to see that as a chance to prove how much you want to find yourself, then you'll find fulfillment and security in your pursuit. When you are yourself, everyone will respect you more and treat you kindly. Best of all, you will always feel good about yourself.
Manene Tabane from Positive Men’s Movement of South Africa, Mr Tabane is the Secretary General of the movement and he joined us to discuss about the International Men’s Day that was held on the 19th of November. We also discussed about the 16 days of activism that started today and what the movement was doing to assist in this regard.
Commissioner Dr Yvette Abrahams from Commission for Gender Equality. Abrahams joined the Morning Cruise to discuss the first of the 16 days of activism seminar series taking place on 27th November 2009; Changing Social Norms Around Gender-based Violence: What is the Relationship between Social Norms and Material Conditions? It will be taking place at HSRC, 12th Floor, Plein Park Building (Opposite Revenue Office), Plein Street , Cape Town . Contact Vuyokazi Ngxubaza, Tel (021) 4668004, Fax (021) 461 0299, or VNgxubaza@hsrc.ac.za, Cell: 082 0508453.
QUOTE OF THE DAY
"He who trims himself to suit everyone will soon whittle himself away."
“You can never have an impact on society if you have not changed yourself... Great peacemakers are all people of integrity, of honesty, but humility”.
That’s it for the Morning Cruise, where we cruise through your weekday here on BushRadio 89.5fm live on your stereo between 9am – 12pm with me Denisia Adams. Take Care ... make the best of your day and Keep the Faith. Stay Real!!!!!!!!!!