Thursday, August 25, 2011


How to Be Brave

Face down your fears and bring more satisfaction into your life by building up your strongest self.

Steps to Courage
Make a decision to be brave. We don't have to succumb to the unhelpful negative chatter in our minds. "Being courageous doesn't mean not having fear," says Judith Orloff, MD, author of Positive Energy (Three Rivers Press). "It's just that the feeling doesn't control you. Establish a basic personal philosophy that fear is an opportunity to grow, not something you run from."

Accept your limitations. Nobody can do all things, all the time. If, like me, you want to be more physically adventurous, take steps to make your body stronger and come up with some healthy physical challenges -- walk a little farther, try a new regimen. But tell yourself, "It's okay I can't do it all. I'm human."

Be grateful for your fear. People tend to try to push the feeling away, which doesn't work, at least for long. Instead, embrace and feel it. "Fear is a healthy survival response," says Neil Fiore, PhD, author of Awaken Your Strongest Self (McGraw-Hill). "You can't shut it off, but you can bring it under control." When you get the jolt telling you something's dangerous, that's your cue to evaluate the situation. Are you really in trouble or is your head playing tricks on you? Then you can decide where to go from there.

Build your mental strength. Think often about your important traits, goals, and values. "The neuropathways in the brain that are used the most are the most likely to fire," says Peter Ubel, MD, author of You're Stronger Than You Think (McGraw-Hill). "If you remind yourself of your good traits, they're more likely to kick in when you need them." Make a list of your strengths and goals, in your mind or on paper.
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Wednesday, August 24, 2011

How to let go of fear

Don’t Let Fear Get In Your Way

It is a rare person who lives without fearful feelings of one kind or another. You may be afraid of heights, or spiders, or new situations, or rejection. Whatever your fears may be, there are basically two ways of dealing with them. The first is to let those fears create boundaries beyond which you can’t move or grow. The second is to face your fears head-on and allow them to become opportunities to expand your life. Which approach do you tend to use?
Five simple ways to address your fears
1. Realize that everyone is afraid of something. No matter what you are afraid of, you are not alone. There are so many commonly held fears out there that they call them phobias. We’ve all heard of the biggies like Arachnophobia which is a fear of spiders. But how about Bibliophobia (fear of books), Dendrophobia (fear of trees), Leukophobia (fear of the color white), Philophobia (fear of love) or Pteridophobia (fear of ferns).

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself. ~ Franklin D. Roosevelt

Why did I mention all these weird phobias? Because, now that you have seen some of the things that others are afraid of, your fears probably seem a little more reasonable. The point is, everyone fears something and understanding this can help you feel less isolated in your fears. Your particular fears do not make you weird and even your deepest, darkest fear is not unique to you alone.

2. You don’t have to overcome your fears all at once. Let’s imagine that you are fearful of public speaking. You probably wouldn’t want to address this by booking a speaking gig in front of a thousand people. All that would do is reinforce your fearful feelings. How much more reasonable it would be to start small and work up from there.

Fear is an acronym in the English language for, ‘False Evidence Appearing Real.’ ~ Neale Donald Walsch

 The same principle applies to most fears. If you are afraid to swim in the ocean don’t go to the north shore of Oahu your first time out. Instead, find a quiet little bay somewhere and get comfortable with that situation. Then, as you become familiar with the feel and rhythm of small waves, you can comfortably ease your way into something a little more challenging. One of the best ways to overcome your fears is with baby steps.

3. Approach your fears as opportunities to grow. This involves changing your emotional viewpoint. Obviously, nobody wants to live with fearful feelings. What would your life be like if you overcame your fears? What kind of new opportunities would be available to you if you could just release your fears?

Looking beyond our fears to the prospective benefits of overcoming them changes our focus completely. As long as we are focusing on fear, we feed that fearful feeling. Focusing on the benefits of overcoming our fears removes much of the emotional energy feeding them. Making a list of the pros and cons of dealing with the thing that you are afraid of can help give your focus new direction.

1) What are the potential benefits of overcoming your fear?
2) How might your life be different if you weren’t afraid of it?
3) What would you be free to do if you could let go of that fear?
4) What do you have to lose by giving up those fearful feelings?
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RECEIVED any of these chain emails???

Heart Attacks And Hot Water

A very good article which takes two minutes to read. I'm sending this to persons I care about.........I hope you do too!!!
Heart Attacks And Drinking Warm Water
This is a very good article. Not only about the warm water after your meal , but about .Heart Attacks. The Chinese and Japanese drink hot tea with their meals , not cold water , maybe it is time we adopt theirdrinking habit while eating.

For those who like to drink cold water , this article is applicable to you. It is nice to have a cup of cold drink after a meal. However , the cold water will solidify the oily stuff that you have just consumed. It will slow down the digestion. Once this 'sludge' reacts with the acid , it will break down and be absorbed by theintestine faster than the solid food. It will line the intestine. Very soon , this will turn into fats and lead to cancer.


I did some investigation for myself and did an interview with a registered dietician from the Heart and Stroke Foundation Lucy Gerricke who did further investigation and was pleased to inform me and Bush Radio listeners that the email is in fact a HOAX. Claims made in the email is FALSE!

Next Up:


Woman Arrest Law:
An incident took place - a young girl was attacked by a man posing as a plain clothes officer; he asked her to come to the police station when she & her male friend didn't have a driver's license to show.

He sent the male friend off to get his license and asked the girl to accompany him to the police station. Instead he took her to an isolated area where the rape was committed.

The law [which most of us are not aware of] clearly states that between 6 pm and 6 am, a woman has the right to REFUSE to go to the Police Station, even if an arrest warrant has been issued against her.


According to Hoodah Abrahams - Fayker, attorney from the Women's Legal centre, it's another HOAX. Hoodah called the number provided in the email and got mixed responses, however, her very through knowledge can safely say the law doesnt exist.

*NB don't believe everything you read or hear for that matter

Tuesday, August 23, 2011

For parents:

How To STOP Worrying
- positive parent = positive child -
Tips to help you put up boundaries around your worry:

Control Worry, Don't Let It Control You
Instead of listening to your worrisome thoughts, intervene before you get caught up in an unhealthy habit. A worrisome thought that crosses your mind is a warning signal. This signal may be appropriately alerting you to danger. In this case, the appropriate course of action is to examine the concern. First, ask yourself what is the worst that could happen? Second, ask yourself if this outcome is likely and probable? Third, ask yourself if the outcome is a real problem? Next, only if the concern is likely and presents a real problem, consider all your courses of action. Last, evaluate each course of action, and a solution that makes sense.

Differentiate Realistic Concern From Worry
Realistic concern is a warning signal that you are in trouble. It’s the internal alarm system that indicates that you are indeed facing a difficult situation. Realistic concern is based on a specific upsetting, dangerous, or risky situation that you are NOW being faced with and are ill equipped or prepared to face it. For example, your computer crashed an hour before an important meeting and the vital information that you need is on your computer.
Worry, on the other hand, is thinking about things that might happen now or later with no credible evidence to support it. For example, not returning a phone call to a client or friend by the end of the day and worrying that person may stop doing business with you or being your friend and taking it as a sign that you will lose many more accounts and friends in the future.
Keep Lifting Even When The Weight Feels Too Heavy
It’s important to determine if you are facing a genuinely worrisome difficulty that you have no control to fix. Accept you cannot take responsibility for everything and everyone. Often one is frustrated when a problem is out of your hands or you are delayed in taking action due to circumstances you cannot control. When there is truly nothing you can do about it, learn to tolerate the powerlessness.
Remember that powerlessness is just a bad feeling. It will go away all on its own even if you do nothing to help it subside. Accept that bad feelings can’t hurt you if you accept they are necessary and temporary components of life. Tolerating bad feelings will make you a psychologically stronger person. Dig in and bear the discomfort. Make it a challenge and hold on.
Stick To The Facts: Knowledge Is Power
Thoughts pop into all of our heads. The key is to accept that every thought that crosses through your mind is not necessarily true. Worries are just fleeting thoughts that represent the concerns that preoccupy your subconscious. Before you let your worrisome thought wreak havoc on your system and stress you out, accept that just because you have a worry does not make it a true concern.
Stick to the facts surrounding your worries. A key strategy is to ask yourself what evidence you have that the worry thought is true or not true. If the worry thought is true and based on real facts, then you can reign in your worry by examining your actual risk and reminding yourself of how you are equipped to handle the problem. However, if you find that you have no facts to support your worry, then it’s important to let go of it. Nothing in life is certain so letting go means tolerating that uncertainty.

Remember Worry Does Not Keep You Safe
Remember that you can’t magically ward off danger or risk by worrying about it. Worrying about something can’t make that thing happen—or not happen. By spending time worrying about the coulds, mights, and maybes, you’ll end up missing out on living in the present and enjoying just being in the moment. Worrying keeps you in your head and not fully engaged in living.
Think about the how many precious, happy moments you may miss with your partner & kids because you were distracted by worry. It can also unknowingly cause a disconnect between yourself and important people or situations in your life. Think about the time when you were so deep in thought that you had no idea that your son scored a goal, your daughter shared a loving comment about you, or your boss was telling you important information about an upcoming meeting. Was that worrying worth it?

Rather Than 'What-If', Deal With The 'What Is'
The “what ifs” of worry only serve to escalate the intensity of your anxiety and fear. Those “what ifs” are like snowballs that roll down a hill and get bigger and more threatening. The key strategy here is to not let your worry escalate by adding worst case scenarios to the picture. Stick to the specific situation at hand and gather as much information as you can to figure out the most realistic possibilities. It is much easier to deal with the known than to worry about things that are highly improbable. Rather than “what if,” deal with the “what is.”

Think In The 'For-Now', Not In The 'Forever'
Luckily most of our choices can be amended. The question is, what makes the most sense at this point in time with the information that currently exists? There are no crystal balls and no guarantees of what lies ahead. Think of all the possible things that can happen to affect any given choice we make. If you accept that the choice you make was reasonable and valid given the information you had at that time, then you can avoid despair and frustration when that decision you made didn’t turn out for the best. Instead of kicking yourself, comfort yourself when things take an unexpected unpleasant turn.

Be A Scout: Be Prepared
Think back to all the difficult situations and problems you have faced in life so far. Have you survived? Of course you have, you are here! The good news is that facing thorny situations just leaves you even more prepared for the future. Knowing you have battled these tough times reminds you of how resilient and equipped you are for adversity.
Think of all the problems you have addressed in your lifetime and tell yourself you are more than able to face life’s stressors. Your past has prepared you for whatever lies ahead, so remove the fear and let the scout in you lead the way.
Wear Your Invisible Shield: Confidence
A cloak of protection surrounds everyone. The name of this invisible shield is confidence. Confidence is what equips us to face difficult and stressful situations without worry. Confidence fortifies us to know we can make good decisions, problem solve, operate independently when we need to and get appropriate help when necessary. It is confidence that reminds us that we are capable of performing what life asks of us. It tells us we are competent and capable. It allows us to ask for help when we need it delay actions or decisions when we are don’t have the answers. Confidence also reminds us that each person is a unique, complex, desirable package. Every person out there has something wonderful to offer others. Believing in you means you have the most reliable shield of all, confidence.

I bet you never thought about that ....

There's always more emphasis on HIV/Aids education, which don't get me wrong, is pevital in South Africa, however, I'm sure there are more people walking around with an unwanted STD.

The rates of many STIs (also known as STDs), including HIV/AIDS, are on the rise, especially in people aged 25 and under. STIs can lead to infertility, chronic pain, or cancer. In some cases, they can be fatal.

Did you know that untreated syphlis can cause permanent blindness.

There are different types of STD/STI's like
Chlamydia - most common STI.
As many as 1 in 4 men with chlamydia have no symptoms.
An untreated chlamydia infection may spread to the uterus or the fallopian tubes, causing salpingitis or pelvic inflammatory disease. These conditions can lead to infertility and increase the risk of ectopic pregnancy.
gential warts

Gonorrhea, Anyone who has any type of sex can catch gonorrhea. The infection can be spread by contact with the mouth, vagina, penis, or anus.Not having sexual intercourse (abstinence) is the only absolute method of preventing gonorrhea
 Syphilis, Syphilis is believed to have infected 12 million people worldwide in 1999, with greater than 90% of cases in the developing world. It's 2011 do the math.

General symptoms of STI's:

Swelling in the gential area, constant inching, smelly discharged, lower abdomenal pain, sores, rashes.

*Remember STI's are not always noticable especially in females so unprotected sex can pose a serious treat.*

Monday, August 22, 2011

Book Reviews on the Morning Cruise

First up we had Kenni Gambo who spoke about his latest book release, "Conquering the Odds Stacked Against You". The book deals with the obstacles you will encounter on your way to your dreams, especially the ones you least expect. The book gives insightful tips on how to turn every obstacle you face to your advantage. Take value from your life lessons which is also known to society as "mistakes". Kenni Gambo believes life has designed a path for each of us to take and every experience we encounter, good or bad, is purposeful. Kenni also believes, "that sometimes the answer no takes you to the place called yes". Basically the book makes it easy for people to understand this concept. Check out his blog for more info

Second book review was done with Dr Sindiwe Magona who in fact was invited to write the book, "From Robben Island to Bischopscourt". It's the biography of Archbischop Njongokulu Ndugane . Archbischop Ndugane specifically wanted a women to write his biography according Magona. She says his a great femminist and very proud of it. When asked about her experiences when writing his biography Magona mention learned the Archbischop is a determined man, disciplined and godly. Magona says the more she dug into his life the more she realised the importance of early formation of family life. The book will also showcase that as an human being Archbischop Ndugane too had trials and tribulation but because of strong family support and love it almost allowed him to rise above it all strongly.

The Archbischop too was part of the struggle during the apartheid years and to quote Helen Holyoake at Helco's review,"Archbishop Njongonkulu Ndungane may not have held the international stage like previous Archbishop Desmond Tutu, but he occupies a pivotal place in the history of South Africa.".
The book  is available in all good stores.

One of my favourite book reviews which taught me about my past is, "The truth is one the walls". The book is about the experiences of Naz Gool Ebrahim who was part of the resistance movement during the forceful removal residence of District six during the apartheid years in South Africa. The truth is on the wall is about sharing/voicing peoples experiences that have not been told or even recognised. The book believes and by expressing the truth old scares can finally be healed.

Shahena remembers the day her mother after receiving the final eviction was so enraged that she started writing her feelings and political sayings on the walls and thereafter a tradition started that whoever came through Manly villa added onto the walls.

I interviewed the daughter of Naz Gool, Shahena Wingate Pearce co author of the book as well as being responsible for preserving the original manuscripts.
The book is available at all good book stores.

Thursday, August 04, 2011

taking the negative and making it positive

keeping you in tune and in touch

First up: Hilda de Beer from the Newkidz on the Block. Newkidz is a non profit organization who builds sustainable child–support networks in communities and link them with foster families and children's homes, promote foster care, facilitate renovations and maintenance of children's homes etc. Newkidz already have 19 completed projects (check the website). Hilda mentioned that the organisation seeks sponsors to assist them in their plight of orphans in South Africa, however, what makes the project go from strength to strength is the assistance of the volunteers who give their time during the operation of each project.
To find out more about Newkidz on the Block visit

Next up, the Morning Cruise spoke to Jules Newton founder of Avovision/Footprint SA. We focused on Footprint SA whose motto is “You teach a woman, you teach a village”. Footprint SA gives women from underprivelege communities a chance to enhance their lives and essentially their small businesses by providing them with financial literacy. "Financial literacy training empowers people to make better financial decisions, and to understand how particular financial products can help them achieve their goals.".

To find out more visit

Wednesday, August 03, 2011


10 Ways to Instantly Build Self Confidence

Self confidence is the difference between feeling unstoppable and feeling scared out of your wits. Your perception of yourself has an enormous impact on how others perceive you. Perception is reality — the more self confidence you have, the more likely it is you’ll succeed.
Although many of the factors affecting self confidence are beyond your control, there are a number of things you can consciously do to build self confidence. By using these 10 strategies you can get the mental edge you need to reach your potential.

1. Dress Sharp
Although clothes don’t make the man, they certainly affect the way he feels about himself. No one is more conscious of your physical appearance than you are. When you don’t look good, it changes the way you carry yourself and interact with other people. Use this to your advantage by taking care of your personal appearance. In most cases, significant improvements can be made by bathing and shaving frequently, wearing clean clothes, and being cognizant of the latest styles.
This doesn’t mean you need to spend a lot on clothes. One great rule to follow is “spend twice as much, buy half as much”. Rather than buying a bunch of cheap clothes, buy half as many select, high quality items. In long run this decreases spending because expensive clothes wear out less easily and stay in style longer than cheap clothes. Buying less also helps reduce the clutter in your closet.
2. Walk Faster
One of the easiest ways to tell how a person feels about herself is to examine her walk. Is it slow? tired? painful? Or is it energetic and purposeful? People with confidence walk quickly. They have places to go, people to see, and important work to do. Even if you aren’t in a hurry, you can increase your self confidence by putting some pep in your step. Walking 25% faster will make to you look and feel more important.
3. Good Posture
Similarly, the way a person carries herself tells a story. People with slumped shoulders and lethargic movements display a lack of self confidence. They aren’t enthusiastic about what they’re doing and they don’t consider themselves important. By practicing good posture, you’ll automatically feel more confident. Stand up straight, keep your head up, and make eye contact. You’ll make a positive impression on others and instantly feel more alert and empowered.
4. Personal Commercial
One of the best ways to build confidence is listening to a motivational speech. Unfortunately, opportunities to listen to a great speaker are few and far between. You can fill this need by creating a personal commercial. Write a 30-60 second speech that highlights your strengths and goals. Then recite it in front of the mirror aloud (or inside your head if you prefer) whenever you need a confidence boost.
5. Gratitude
When you focus too much on what you want, the mind creates reasons why you can’t have it. This leads you to dwell on your weaknesses. The best way to avoid this is consciously focusing on gratitude. Set aside time each day to mentally list everything you have to be grateful for. Recall your past successes, unique skills, loving relationships, and positive momentum. You’ll be amazed how much you have going for you and motivated to take that next step towards success.
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Today we spoke to Kissmea Naude a mother, a business woman, an achiever, award winner and a great inspiration for women to live their best life. For more information on her life an achievements read the article written in

Lastly, Bregje Piper from the WHEAT(Women’s Hope Education and Training) Trust She joined us this morning to inform of us of the organisation's plans for Women's Month, which is:

  • On Friday the 5th of August (3 to 5pm), we will be hosting the WHEAT award ceremony in celebration of, and to acknowledge the good work that the women are fulfilling in their communities, where they push the agenda for human rights for women. We are expecting about 250 people.
  • On Saturday the 6th of August, we are hosting a girl talk workshop at the Artscape theatre for 80 girls from disadvantaged or underprivileged backgrounds. There will be several activities here, but mainly, there will be emphasis on life skill impartation that the girls wouldn’t normally receive within the formal schooling system.
  • Lastly, participate in some of the public dialogues, mainly those being run by Elna Boesak