Friday, October 30, 2009

We Featured a local capetonian group from Belhar called Frontline Soulja's from Blackout records. Find out about their style and more.

By Denisia Adams
Stentorian /sten-TOR-ee-uhn\
1.Extremely loud.
Eg. Stop that man," Tom yelled in a stentorian voice as he pushed his way
through the crowd after the pickpocket.

How did the group TKZee form their name?
Answer: T is for Tokollo; K is for Kabelo; Zee is for Zwai.
TKZee: the band that has rewritten the South African musical history books by becoming the biggest selling Kwaito music group ever.

Admitting to heart risk concerns for the first time, stun-gun maker TASER International is warning police to avoid firing the devices directly at suspects’ chests. Though the company stressed that suffering an "adverse cardiac event" after being shocked by the weapon is "extremely unlikely," human rights groups dispute this claim and say that hundreds of people have been killed by electroshock weapons. These groups say the company’s new guidelines, which lower the recommended point of aim "from center of mass to lower-center of mass for front shots," are essentially an admission that the devices can cause heart attacks.

How to Cheer Up
Isn't it annoying when you're feeling down, and people nonchalantly tell you to cheer up? It's easier said than done. While you can't improve your mood with the snap of your fingers, the following steps might help you climb out of a rut. Try them!
Make faces. There's something called the "facial feedback hypothesis" which basically says that whatever face you make will affect how you feel. Usually, it works the other way around: if you're grouchy, you scowl; if you're happy, you smile; if you're surprised or scared, you open your eyes and mouth. But it's a two way street. If you want to feel happy and cheerful, force yourself to smile. Really smile. Hold that expression for 10 seconds. Repeat as needed. It's almost like engaging the "smile muscles" activates the "happy section" of your brain associated with smiling.
o If you're worried about looking silly or crazy, do it privately.

o Doing this while looking in the mirror might be more effective.
2. Sing and dance. You know how when you stand up straight, you seem to feel a little more confident? Although it hasn't been proven, there might be a "body feedback hypothesis". Take that to the extreme. Hide out in your room, put on a happy song, and dance and sing along like you mean it. If you don't know the words to a song, look up the lyrics and read them as you sing, or make up your own lyrics as you go along (they don't have to make sense!). As far as dancing is concerned, it doesn't really matter what you do, especially since nobody's watching. Do the robot, the chicken dance, the moonwalk etc. The key with this step is to let loose. The wackier, the better. Even if you feel awful, just pretend you're an obnoxiously happy person and you'll improve your mood by several notches.
3. Take a power nap. Although tiredness or exhaustion might not be what put you in a rut, it can certainly push you further down. Plus, sometimes a nap can function like a "second morning", similar to pushing the reset button on electronics. Once you get up, take a shower or at least wash your face. Do whatever you can to make it feel like a fresh start.
4. Meditate. It's not about the crossed legs or candles or mantras in this case; it's about becoming aware of your thoughts so that they don't control you. Imagine your thoughts are being displayed on one of those electronic scroll screens. Just watch them go by. Don't judge them, don't tell yourself you shouldn't be thinking this or that, don't get frustrated. Just watch. You'll probably observe the same thoughts repeating themselves, like a broken record. If you meditate in this way long and often enough, you'll notice the repetitive thoughts dropping off on their own, one by one, because you're not acting on them. You're just observing them.
5. Be thankful. Everyone has something to be grateful for. Make a list of the good things that have happened to you. If nothing instantly springs to mind, you aren't trying hard enough. If all else fails, think of how life could be worse, and flip the thought process to recognize what you do have. For example: You're flunking out of school. How could it be worse? You could not even have a chance to go to school. You could be at the end, rather than the beginning of the term. Then your thought process can turn into "Well, at least I have a chance to go to school, and I still have time to turn my grades around." Get a notebook and a pen, and write down all the good things that you have. Every time you are feeling negative, read through them and remind yourself that it's not all bad.
6. Cheer someone else up. There's an idea that floats around many New Age circles that says if you want something, give it (sincerely) to someone else. The basis is that you can't really give what you don't already have, so in giving something, you'll find it in yourself and realize that you had it all along. It's pretty easy to see how this can work on an emotional level. If you can make someone else happy, why can't you make yourself happy? So ask the people around you how they are doing. Listen to them. And try to find a way to make them feel better. You'll draw your attention away from your own negativity and in doing away with theirs, you'll probably get rid of yours too.
7. Forgive. In addition to being thankful, it is also good practice to forgive those who have hurt you in the past. Sit in a quiet place with your eyes closed and concentrate on the people you want to forgive. Imagine you are sitting in a circle with those who have done you harm. See their faces in your mind, and take turns concentrating on each one of them individually. When you really feel connected to one of them, say out loud, "I forgive you". Ideally this routine is ended by forgiving yourself for things in your life that you regret or cannot control. The purpose of this exercise is to create serenity with feelings of peace and renewal. Note that you don't forgive others for their benefit (or because they deserve it); it's for your benefit, so you can put the past behind you and move on.
8. Accept. This concept, which is central to eastern philosophies like Buddhism, is based on the idea that the world is perfect just the way it is. There is much around us that isn't perfect.. and that's okay. We can just accept this state of affairs, and decide that we don't need our life to be perfect in order for us to cheer up. This is related to the point Be Grateful, above.

WE ALSO FEATURED:FRONTLINE SOULJA’S. Frontline Soulja’s is a local capetonian group all the way from Belhar. The group consist of three members, Anges Martin aka Snow (producer/marketer), Godfrey Moses aka TruColourz and finally Justin McCartney. Frontline soldiers are currently working on their album which will be released next year February called, “New Beginnings”.They've incorporated Cape Afrikaans, English, Sotho and Xhosa in their mix. The group also wishes to promote positive living through their music especially since they’ve come from the streets, seen/been through the bad yet maintained positivity. They believe in message in the music but promises some grooves to get down to as well on their album.

Albert Einstein
The world is a dangerous place, not because of those who do evil, but because of those who look on and do nothing.
That’s it for the Morning Cruise, where we cruise through your weekday here on BushRadio 89.5fm live on your stereo between 9am – 12pm with me Denisia Adams. Take Care ... make the best of your day and Keep the Faith. Stay Real!!!!!!!!!!

Thursday, October 29, 2009

Find out about the Helderberg Residents Association as well as the Dumisani Project Centre in Mitchell's only on the Morning Criuse


By Denisia Adams
1. Skillful in the use of the hands.
2. Having mental skill or ability.

Which is the fourth oldest town in South Africa?
A – Johannesburg B – Ghost Town C – Graaff Reinet
Answer: C – Graaff Reinet

Nessie, the Loch Ness monster is protected by the 1912 Protection of Animals Acts of Scotland. With good reason - Nessie is worth $40 million annually to Scottish tourism. ALSO DID YOU KNOW Of the more than $50 billion worth of diet products sold every year, almost $20 billion are spent on imitation fats and sugar substitutes.

How to Stop Being a People Pleaser
Do you habitually give in to other people because you just can't stand the thought of upsetting them? Do you put your needs to one side because you get a buzz from someone else's happiness, only to find that he or she is not a bit grateful? If so, you are a classic "people pleaser," and you are, in all probability, not getting what you want out of life. It's time to shift the focus from others to yourself, and stop being a martyr.

1. Think of five times when you did or said something that did not truly reflect your wants and needs, in order to please someone else. Write them down. For each of these occasions, imagine how you would have handled it differently - to please yourself! What is the worst that could have happened? Write down your worst fears.
2. Look at your fears. Are they realistic? Are they truly terrible? You might be afraid that no one will like you, that someone will leave you, or that you will be left all alone if you don't say the right thing. That is a prison you have trapped yourself in, and it's time to unlock the doors and walk out! The people around you may be used to your compliance, but if they're not willing to accept that you have your own needs, are they really worth having in your life?
3. Examine your ability to set limits on others. Examine your boundaries. Where are they? What is acceptable behavior for you and what is unacceptable? Do you tolerate the intolerable? Normalize the abnormal? Accept the unacceptable? Do you know what it feels like to be treated with dignity and respect? Learn how to identify and label unacceptable treatment from others and how to set limits on their behavior when they violate your boundaries.
4. Consider the source. Many people pleasers were raised in environments wherein their needs and feelings were pushed aside/not considered. Were you always expected to anticipate, and to mold yourself to, everyone else's needs? Did you learn that the only way to receive a positive response was to do what others wanted you to do? If so, here's a newsflash: Not all the world wants a pushover. By focusing on pleasing others, you open yourself up to manipulation and abuse. You will never reach your potential as an individual if you constantly hide behind others' expectations.
5. Stop basing your self-worth on how much you do for other people. It's noble to want to help others, but it's something you should do because you want to, not because you feel you have to. The greatest acts of kindness are those done by choice, not out of fear or guilt. If you're doing things for others because you would feel bad if you didn't, is the action really genuine? Would you want others to help you under those terms? And, if you're helping others to such an extent that you are neglecting yourself, is that really wise?
6. Learn how to say "no." Don't make up excuses - give your reasons for not wanting something. So your husband wants his entire family to come to Christmas dinner, and you just can't face it? "I'm sorry darling, I find the pressure of entertaining such a large number of people intolerable." Your best friend wants you to go with her or him to a party that will be full of people that you can't stand? "No thank you, it's just not my scene." Start small - find something small to say "no" to, but say it firmly. Say it politely, but mean it! You'll be surprised; the world will not collapse around your ears! People rarely take offense, and those that do aren't worth pleasing.
7. Ask for what you want. If everybody's going to the movies, and most people in the group want to see a particular movie, but you'd rather watch something else, speak up! There's nothing wrong with voicing your opinion, and it doesn't have to mean you're making a demand. Simply reminding people that you're an individual with your own preferences is a big step forward. Even asking someone to help you do something will help.
Ultimately, you must remember that no one can read your mind. If you feel that you do so much for others, but they don't do anything for you, maybe it's because you don't express your needs or desires. It's not fair to make people pry an answer from you. If they ask you what you want, or if there's a decision being made, put in your opinion, and let that be that.
8. Do something for yourself. Do one thing you have been wanting to do, but are afraid someone else will not like. Dye your hair, get that new look, have a treat that you enjoy, go on holiday....whatever you do, do it for yourself, and practice not worrying what anyone else thinks about it. Don't get caught up in doing things just because no one else wants you to do them. Remember that there ought to be things that you truly want to do for yourself, regardless of what anyone else thinks, not in spite of it. Other people's opinions are a factor in our lives, but they should not be the determining factor.

9. Compromise. While it's not good to be a pushover, it's no better to be a manipulative bully or a reckless rebel. Don't become totally selfish. In fact, many people pleasers have low self-esteem. So do those who are selfish. It is best to develop good self-care skills, which include healthy assertiveness skills. You can listen to others, but ultimately, what you do is your choice. Keep a balance! Sometimes the needs of other people should come first. Whenever there's a conflict of desires, try to come up with a solution that will meet both desires halfway, or better yet, a "win-win" situation where both sides get even more than they bargained for.

Joe Barrens chairperson of the Helderberg Residents Association. He joined us to speak about the pivotal role an association like theirs plays in a community such as Helderberg. Joe says one of the biggest problems facing the community is basic employment, skills and resources. The members of the association have been in communication with government who according to Mr Barrens is excited to partake in the future developments. Mr Barrens says one of the Helderberg’s biggest disadvantages is due to the fact that it is not opened to the N2 which makes it difficult to be seen. Helderberg has a rich history which is not recognised and with the right exposure will open doors for developments and essentially, employment. To find out more contact +27 21 857 36 34

Lastly we were joined by Francisco Tejada from the Dumisani Project Centre. It provides a platform for aspiring musicians and vocalist to get professional training at a minimal cost. The centre also gives the members an opportunity to showcase their skills in various concerts performed throughout the year. To find out more contact the centre on +27 21 391 28 6o/h

Walter Anderson

Our lives improve only when we take chances - and the first and most difficult risk we can take is to be honest with ourselves.
That’s it for the Morning Cruise, where we cruise through your weekday here on BushRadio 89.5fm live on your stereo between 9am – 12pm with me Denisia Adams. Take Care ... make the best of your day and Keep the Faith. Stay Real!!!!!!!!!!

Wednesday, October 28, 2009

Find out about how guest Shanaaz Achmat endued and survived a painful 6years of betrayal, an ugly divorce, poverty and life as a sinking ship

By Denisia Adams
1. Strictly attentive to the details of form in action or conduct; precise; exact in the smallest particulars.
Eg. The clerk was so punctilious in obeying the court rules that I had to remind him why I was there.

What is considered the “centre” of Rondebosch?
A – The university B – The Rondebosch Fountain C – The Bus stop
Answer: B – The Rondebosch Fountain
The Fountain is considered the "centre" of Rondebosch and can be visited in its original place, now the busy traffic intersection where Belmont Road meets Main Road. On or near this spot, stood a clump of thorn trees named by Jan van Riebeeck, "'T Ronde Doornbosjen" from which Rondebosch took its name. In this vicinity, on March 1, 1657, nine free "burghers" took permanent title to land and became the first European "citizens" of South Africa. The Fountain was donated to the Municipality of Rondebosch by George Pigot Moodie on 26 Sept 1891. He died five weeks later at Westbrooke where he lived.It was proclaimed a national monument on 10 April 1964. Contrary to its name, the Fountain is actually an ornamental trough for watering horses.

About 500 small meteorites fall to earth every year but most fall in the sea and in unpopulated areas. DID YOU KNOW The tallest mountain on earth is under the ocean: Mauna Kea in Hawaii is 10,200 metres (33,465 ft) high. Mount Everest is 8,848 metres (29,029 ft) high.

How to Smile With the Eyes
Scientists have pinpointed more than 50 types of smiles, and research suggests that the sincerest smile of all is the Duchenne smile--a smile that pushes up into the eyes. The reason it's more genuine is because the muscles needed to smile with our eyes are involuntary; they only become engaged in an authentic smile, not in a "courtesy" smile. Since you can't force a genuine smile (after all, that's what makes them genuine!) this article will suggest some ways you can smile from within.
1. Stop being a people pleaser. If you constantly smile in order to be polite and agreeable, you're tightly controlling your countenance and not giving your Duchenne smile much of a chance to shine through. Plus, if you're focused on everyone else's happiness, you're neglecting your own. A real smile arises from your own personal joy, not someone else's. People with martyr syndrome will often say that they derive their greatest personal joy from helping others, and sometimes this is true, but other times, it's an easy way to justify their self-sacrifice and avoid stepping out of their comfort zone.
2. Be happy. A genuine smile comes from genuine happiness. And studies on what makes people happy reveal that it doesn't have much to do with material goods or high achievement; it seems to whittle down to your outlook on life. So learn How to Be Optimistic and real smiles will follow. After all, think about who has the most genuine smiles: kids! They never worry, and life is one big game to them. Follow their laid back and playful!
3. Find your "happy place". This is an exercise that'll help you recognize what really makes you happy. Look in the mirror and cover everything below your eyes with a handkerchief or similar. Then start thinking or talking out loud about your happiest memories. Smile as you do so. You'll notice that at some points, your eyes "twinkle" and you get "crows' feet" wrinkles near your temples. There's your Duchenne smile! So the closest you're ever going to get to smiling with your eyes on command is to channel your happiest memories, and let your face do the rest.
4. Stop being self-conscious about your smile. If you're preoccupied with the color or direction of your teeth, the prominence of your gums, the smell of your might subconsciously stifle your smile because you feel embarrassed. There are some things that can be helped (like whitening your teeth and getting rid of bad breath) but ultimately, you need to commit to the belief that all genuine smiles are beautiful smiles, including your own.
Our inspiring individual who goes by the name Shanaaz Achmat. Shanaaz joined us today in our studios to openly share her life’s experience which consisted of betrayal, an ugly divorce, poverty and life as a sinking ship.

Shanaaz got married at the tender age of fourteen years old. She and her husband at the time were in love, had kids and were inseparable or so it seemed. Being from a Muslim faith her husband at the time decided to marry another wife and it was seen as acceptable but as time grew and as his eagerness for more grew resulted in Shanaaz becoming suspicious, Is he having affairs? His feelings towards her changed, he wanted her out and his new twenty-two year younger partner in. What happens next is where life ultimately crumbled before her very eyes.

As mentioned Shanaaz married very young and didn’t have to work and couldn’t work in fact, so when her ex husband demanded she leave she had absolutely nothing to fall back on. She said she couldn’t believe what was happening she claims she was the perfect wife very submissive always did everything he wanted on time every time and of course she loved him dearly, he was her life. Yet the drama doesn’t end there.

Shanaaz was then moved by her ex husband with her four kids out of the house and into a tiny separate entrance with nothing but paper to sleep on. He then also reduced his maintenance from R3500 for four kids to R1000. Shanaaz says she was torn apart her health was deteriorating, she fell from a staggering 107kg’s to 54kg’s, she developed an eating disorder, a thyroid problem and for the years that followed she was either in hospital, at a police station or in and out of court.

Her ultimate breaking point was when her ex husband told their kids that he no longer will be there for them because he has a new life. She also suffered from a stroke and her kids literally had to help her move from one point to another.

Where things started to change for her was when asked by her daughter, “mommy when are you going to stand up out of bed? When are you going to go on?” Shanaaz believes this was her turning point. That evening Shanaaz says she got into a shower used up the geyser water, cried herself to a oblivion for one last time, completely cleansed herself, got down on her praying mat and prayed. “I thought to myself no more”, I have kids who need me now more than ever”.

After regaining her strength she remembered how much she loved to bake and before her ordeal she use to bake for the elderly and claims to be pretty good at it. Shanaaz then decided to bake Malay-style koeksisters and started selling them from her separate entrance. Her small business became fairly successful and she then added biscuits into “the mix” and eventually opened a Tuck Shop, much to the dismay of her ex husband.

Just when things started picking up she was offered a job as a casual at a retail store, she had no work experience at all but believed in herself and wanted more for her kids. Then just as her casual post came to an end she was offered an opportunity to train as a manager and yes the rest is history.

Shanaaz says that looking back on her ordeal she discovered that everything she went through was part of “a plan” that would lead her to where she is today. She describes her experience as moving through a tunnel. There’s a beginning and an end. At times the journey was clouded by pain it was dark but remembering there’s light at the end of the tunnel is what got her through. Her final words of encouragement is to never give up. I’ll end off by reciting a quote that goes, “we are all born for greater things”.

Mary Engelbreit
If you don't like something, change it; if you can't change it, change the way you think about it.
That’s it for the Morning Cruise, where we cruise through your weekday here on BushRadio 89.5fm live on your stereo between 9am – 12pm with me Denisia Adams. Take Care ... make the best of your day and Keep the Faith. Stay Real!!!!!!!!!

Tuesday, October 27, 2009

Keeping you in the know between 9am - 12pm is the ultimate goal every tuesday only on the Morning Cruise, check it out

By Denisia Adams

adj. (of words, expressions, etc.) having an unpleasant or disparaging undertone
Eg. Mark's pejorative remark about his girlfriend's weight caused her to become bulimic.

When was Sun City officially opened?
A – December 1979 B – December 2000 C – 1994
Answer: A – December 1979
Sun City was developed by the hotel magnate Sol Kerzner as part of his Sun International group of properties. It was officially opened on 7 December 1979.
At the time it was located in Bophuthatswana. As Bophuthatswana had been declared an independent state by South Africa's apartheid government (although unrecognized as such by any other country), it was allowed to provide 'immoral' entertainment (in the eyes of the South African government) such as gambling and topless revue shows, which were banned in South Africa.

The tallest waterfalls in the world are Angel Falls in Venezuela. At 979 m (3,212 ft), they are 19 times taller than the Niagara Falls, or 3 times taller than the Empire State Building. DID YOU KNOW Earth is the densest planet in the solar system and the only one not named after a god.

How to Control Compulsive Spending
To some, being a shopaholic is a joke. Movies like "Confessions of a Shopaholic" display the problem in a lovable and curable way. However, being a compulsive spender is not a joke. Compulsive spending is a bad habit that needs to be controlled. As such, there are a few steps that can help compulsive shoppers take a step back before picking up the credit card.
Step 1
The first step in controlling compulsive spending is accepting the fact that you overspend. Until the knowledge that your spending is out of hand kicks in, there's not much you can do. You have to be ready to change if you are going to stop your compulsive spending. Take a deep breath, accept the fact that you're a compulsive spender, and get ready to change.
Step 2
Hide your credit cards, except for one card with a very low spending limit. Carry only that credit card around. After all, you will need to shop for necessities, so carrying no cards at all isn't really an option. If you only have credit cards with high spending limits, see if you can get the limit lowered on one of your cards. Carrying only one card with a low limit will force you to limit your purchases. After all, if you try to overspend, your card will get declined - and no shopper wants to deal with that!
Step 3
Check your credit card balance online daily. Seeing a daily reminder of the money that you owe should keep you on track and away from the mall. It gets depressing to see your balance grow, so looking your debt in the face is a great way to keep yourself away from spending more money.
Step 4
Limit the time that you spend alone on the internet. The internet is a wonderful place for shopping, as any compulsive spender knows. So, make sure to have someone check out your internet activity every so often, or just stay off the internet as much as possible. Being left alone with the giant mall known as the internet makes shopping easy, so don't let that happen.
Step 5
Clean out your closets. It will be a sobering reality to see how many things you've purchased and never used. Set aside everything that you've never used and don't want, as well as gently used items that you no longer want to keep. Then, sell these items. Have a garage sale, give them to a consignment store, or donate them. You can also sell them on eBay, but being on eBay at all may be too much temptation for a compulsive spender.
Step 6
Keep yourself busy. If you have other activities, you won't feel the need to fill a void with shopping. Plus, if you find a hobby that you really like (and is healthy), it may take the place of shopping altogether. Compulsive shopping may be caused by the need to fill a void in your life. If you fill that void with something positive, you may be able to naturally move away from your shopping addiction.
Step 7
Share your successes with friends and family members. Tell your friends and family members that you are going to cut back on your spending, and let them help you through your journey. Each time you go a week without buying anything unnecessary, tell someone! The praise will help you get through the tough times, and the encouragement to do better will be great when you lapse. When you do need to shop, take a shopping buddy. A shopping buddy will help you to determine what you need versus what you want.
Step 8
Allow yourself to shop, but in moderation. If you see an item that you really want, stop and think before you buy it. If you can wait to buy it later, do so, because waiting a day or two will help you decide if you really want that particular thing. Also, when you shop, make a habit of only purchasing one thing. Do you really need to go out and buy five pairs of pants? Of course not. However, would one new, unique dress add a nice touch to your wardrobe? Absolutely. Shop, but shop wisely and moderately.

An interview about Depression as a genetic disease as well as an interview about the Jumpstart programme. The Jumpstart programme creates a platform for the youth to gain skills which would prepare for the job market.

Danish Proverb

The strongest among the weak is the one who doesn't forget his weaknesses.
That’s it for the Morning Cruise, where we cruise through your weekday here on BushRadio 89.5fm live on your stereo between 9am – 12pm with me Denisia Adams. Take Care ... make the best of your day and Keep the Faith. Stay Real!!!!!!!!!!

Friday, October 23, 2009

We kept it all about entertainment arts and culture on the Morning Cruise Art - C Friday, check it out.....

By Denisia Adams

1.Muddy; thick with or as if with roiled sediment; not clear; -- used of liquids of any kind
2. Thick; dense; dark; -- used of clouds, air, fog, smoke, etc
3. Disturbed; confused; disordered

What is the name of Lira’s latest album?
A – Lira’s album B – Good Feel C – Soul in Mind
Answer: C – Soul in Mind

According to a recent study, more than half of the babies now born in wealthy nations will live to be 100 if current life expectancy trends continue. Danish experts say that in the 20th century, most developed countries saw an increase in life expectancy of around 30 years. Advances in medical treatments also mean that the elderly face less serious disability and functional limitations as they age, allowing them to remain active for longer. A growing aging population could pose a challenge for health, economic, and social systems, but the study authors suggest that the elderly can help reduce this burden by maintaining a degree of employment into their old age.

How to Stop Swearing Like A Sailor
Step 1
Admit you have a problem. You will never solve “diarrhea of the mouth” if you don’t see that it impacts your life.
Step 2
Consider your peers. Profanity is influenced and reinforced by the company we keep. Just like drug use, if your friends are “using”, then it makes your journey to vocab-sobriety that much harder.
Step 3
Discover your triggers. Do you swear when you’re angry or just to make a point? Are you swearing to fit in? Or is it just the way in which you speak all the time? Each answer has a different solution. If when angry, try to take a calm breath before instantaneously reacting to the situation at hand. Realize that your words can easily escalate a situation towards violence. If you swear to make a point, try to emphasize the point more with your tone or inflection of your voice, rather than using a swear word. If you are swearing to fit in with a particular peer group, consider why? Is it to look cool? (Because it’s not; we are cool because of who we are not our flair with gutter-slang.) And if you swear all the time, unconsciously, you must become more aware of what you are saying. You are suffering from lack-of-a-mental-filter. Get one quick!
Step 4
Replace the words with something else. I agree with those who argue that “frick” sounds ridiculous when compared with the power of the F word. “Darned” is a watered down version of “Damn” and it’s obvious. So don’t use those replacement words. Use something that suits you. Or don’t use words at all. Sigh instead. Or take a deep breath. Or snap a rubber band around your wrist.
Step 5
Visualize yourself not swearing. How does it make you feel? Hopefully, more in control of yourself, and thus, your life. If you feel hamstrung by not being able to use swear words, then you are not pushing yourself hard enough. Our speech reflects how we think. How are you thinking?
Step 6
Give yourself a reward. You are breaking a habit and deserve every amount of encouragement you can get.
Step 7
Take up yoga or meditation. No, you don’t have to stare at your navel and give up meat; the point is to become more aware of your thoughts and to relax your mind and body. Peaceful minds rarely need to use vulgarities.
Step 8
Increase your vocabulary. I know, I know, it sounds like you’re back in school studying for a spelling exam. But there are (gasp!) fun ways to learn new words. Some websites offer word-of-the-days which can be delivered straight to your in-box. Read more, even if it’s the articles in Playboy (which you claim to read, anyway.)
Step 9
Be persistent. If you fall off the wagon, get right back on. It’s not worth giving up your progress for a minor offense.
Step 10
Be aware. I am not suggesting a 100% ban on swear words. Sometimes they have a time and place. If you do choose to swear, make it a conscious choice appropriate to the situation.

Violiona Anguelov principle singer of the 21st century opera, ‘Dead Man Walking’. It’s a story of a nun’s heart-wrenching interactions with a death-row inmate. Sister Helen, a young nun, working with the poor in the projects, becomes a pen pal to Joseph de Rocher, a convicted murderer on death row. Dead Man Walking begs the questions - is there a moral difference when the state kills as opposed to an individual and should justice be determined by the notion of an “eye for an eye? The opera therefore offers much more than a debate about the rights and wrongs of the death penalty. Virtually every scene develops into an exchange of views about love, faith, grief, justice, vengeance and the possibility of redemption, drawing its musical influences from jazz, rock, musicals and gospel.

Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.

I say to you today, my friends, that in spite of the difficulties and frustrations of the moment, I still have a dream.
That’s it for the Morning Cruise, where we cruise through your weekday here on BushRadio 89.5fm live on your stereo between 9am – 12pm with me Denisia Adams. Take Care ... make the best of your day and Keep the Faith. Stay Real!!!!!!!!!!

Thursday, October 22, 2009

Find out how NPO's are stretching out their hands to the needy only on Community Buzz Thursday- Bush Radio 89.5fm

By Denisia Adams

Being the very same; identical

What was Plettenberg Bay originally christened/nicknamed?
A – Plet Bay B – Bahia Formosa C – It’s always been Plettenberg Bay

Answer: "Bahia Formosa" (beautiful bay) by early Portuguese explorers.

The first study investigating the effects of childhood diet on adult violence has found a link between children who eat sweets every day and aggression in adulthood. According to the data, 10-year-olds who ate sweets daily were significantly more likely to be convicted of a violent offense by the age of 34. While further study is needed to explore this apparent link, researchers say that by giving children candy and chocolate in exchange for good behavior, parents may be preventing their kids from learning how to delay gratification, leading to impulsive behavior and violence.

How to Cope With Frustration
Frustration is a form of poorly expressed anger. Frustration is about expecting the world and its inhabitants to be a certain way.
1. Look for the triggers that cause you to feel frustration. Common ones include:
o Impatience at the speed of people, systems,
o Slow comprehension of facts or a situation by another person
o Lack of reliability of a person, item, or system
o General sense of unfairness or injustice about things that are occurring in your life
o Poor communications resulting in something not being done at all, or on time
o Wanting things your own way without compromise
2. Think through your answers. Do any of the above situations apply to you? If so, note down why. Draw another column and suggest ways that you might address each frustration in a fruitful manner instead. For example:

o "I get frustrated when the traffic crawls to halt and I am sitting in it, sweating. Counter thought: "I do hate the traffic being slow but I can avoid it by leaving earlier or later; or I can turn on the air-conditioning and play my favorite music really loud when I do get stuck and just go with the moment."
o I cannot stand the way George is so slow at understanding the point of every exercise! I'm tearing out my hair!" Counter thought: "I know that George is a slow learner but my goodness, when he grasps the concepts finally, there is no stopping him and he is often the person who points out errors as we go along, helping us to avoid greater
3.Breathe deeply and count when you feel a bout of frustration coming on. This is a good opportunity to create your reaction rather than to react and create your frustration. One deep breath, followed by a slow count to ten, during which time you let your thoughts go. Return to reality and consider the situation before you carefully and with a reality check. Ask yourself:
o Are things really as I perceive them?
o What sort of reaction can I give that will properly express my concern, my annoyance, my wishes?
o What good and positive words can I use to express the need for seeing things my way too?
o Am I seeing things in other people's way too?
4. Remember that frustration is born of wanting things or people to be a certain way that is fixed in your head. Your expectations of others and of how the world works is formed over many years of experiences and sometimes your personal overlay is defective; it might have been a source of self-protection once but when it continues to advise you poorly for future experiences, then it is stuck in time, and generally plain wrong. When you cease to expect other people to act in a certain way, when you start to look at the world with fresh eyes again and expect nothing apart from the fact that you are a member of a community of individuals and a world of many happenings, then you start to realize that things happen, people are the way that they are, and most importantly of all, how you react matters. For example:

o Let's say that somebody yells at you for accidentally standing on the street, as you intend to cross the road at the same time that they're coming around. There is no real fault here. You thought the road was clear, the driver did too. Neither of you had malicious intent. To take offense at the driver's fear of running you over is to place an interpretation on this event that isn't there; instead, accept that the driver was scared they'd hurt you (and that's a good intent) and that your piece in the action was equal. Simply apologize, acknowledge your own scare in the situation, and move on.
5. Practice talking back to yourself every time that frustration arises. It takes a long time to overcome what has become essentially a very comforting but demoralizing habit. While it might feel justified to feel a sense of outrage, persecution, and insult, where do those types of self-pitying feelings ultimately lead you? They lead to personal stagnation and a victimhood type mentality that prevents you from growing as a human being and from experiencing what the whole world truly has to offer. Don't give up on letting go the grip of frustration; it will take time but it will happen if you put in a concerted effort to change your perspective.

Pauline de Klerk from a non-profit organisation called SALT (Sharing Abundant Life Together). She joined us to about the reopening of the Enozipho Edu-care Centre in Joe Slovo Cape Town. SALT opened their hearts and gave the centre a place to be proud of. Initially Enzipho Edu-care Centre housed 100 children aging from 3months to 6years old in two tin containers. Not once have the teachers not shown up nor closed down the centre for any reason. The revamp has the kids in a brand new spacious bricked building with everything they need and even air-conditioning.
John Buchan
There may be peace without joy, and joy without peace, but the two combined make happiness
That’s it for the Morning Cruise, where we cruise through your weekday here on BushRadio 89.5fm live on your stereo between 9am – 12pm with me Denisia Adams. Take Care ... make the best of your day and Keep the Faith. Stay Real!!!!!!!!!!

Wednesday, October 21, 2009

Breast cancer is prevelant amongst woman but men are at high risk as well.... find out more

By Denisia Adams

curt (kûrt)
1. Rudely brief or abrupt, as in speech or manner
2. Using few words; terse
3. Having been shortened

What fish is known to travel north between the months of May and July, in their millions, up along the coastline?

A – Whales B – Koi C- Sardines
Answer: C- Sardines

Did you know in 2000 Reality TV introduced in the form of Survivor, based on Swedish game show Operation Robinson. DID YOU KNOW In Washington state, it is against the law to boast that one's parents are rich. In Maryland, it's illegal to play Randy Newman's "Short People" on the radio. In Alabama it is illegal to play Dominoes on Sunday.

How to live in the moment
Living in the moment is all about living like there's no tomorrow. It takes practice but in the end, you'll lead a fuller life. To do this you must realize beauty in every moment, and in everyday activities. This is your life, now live!

1.Take notice of the world around you. No matter what you're doing, try to find something beautiful around you. Maybe on your way to work or school, you go over a beautiful bridge, or you get a view of the sunrise behind the city buildings. Realizing these small things can bring life and happiness even to the most boring or routine days.

2.Focus on whatver you doing Even if you're just walking, or wiping the counter - how does it feel? There's probably some kind of commentary spinning through your mind, and it probably has to do with something other than what you're doing. Let those thoughts go and focus on what is (not what was, or what could be). In Buddhism, this is referred to as mindfulness. Pay attention to your senses - touch, sight, smell, sound, and taste. Pretend it's the very last time you'll ever experience whatever you're experiencing. Have you ever been so engrossed in something that it seemed like the rest of the world just disappeared? Living in the moment is about creating that state of mind at any time.

3.Smile when you wake up. You can set the tone of appreciation and awareness for the next 24 hours by simply waking up and smiling. Don't wake up with a groan and a smash of your alarm clock. There's scientific proof that the expressions that you make with your face can actually influence how you feel. In particular, true happiness is most closely tied to a Duchenne smile which involves smiling with your eyes, as well as your mouth.

4.Commit random, spontaneous acts of kindness. Whether it's donating 1 dollar to a fund at the pharmacy, picking up litter, or helping victims of natural disasters, keep alert in every moment of your day for some way in which you can make a small difference. Even the smallest thing, like complimenting somebody, can bring joy. It's the most spontaneous and unexpected acts of kindness that produce the greatest impact, and you can't be sensitive to those kinds of opportunities unless you're living in the moment.

5.Minimize activities that dull your awareness of the moment. What are you doing that tempts your mind to run away from the present? For most people,watching teleivision puts you in a passive state of mind, and time slips right by. Daydreaming and getting lost in a good movie or book isn't bad, but it's not living in the moment because it places your concentration on something that isn't right here, right now; it's a form of escapism. Don't zone out; zone in. Do things that are active, and that encourage you to look around and engage the world in that moment. Playing a game, playing an instrument are all activities that lend themselves to mindfulness.

Norah Mabota a mammographer and Johan. They joined us today to discuss our Gender Hub topic being breast cancer in males. Johan in fact is a breast cancer survivor and he joined us to share with us his experience. To find out more about breast cancer in males, continue reading:

Compiled by Professor Justus Apffelstaedt, Associate Professor: University of Stellenbosch and Head of the Breast Clinic: Tygerberg Hospital

What is the incidence of breast cancer in men?
For each 100 women that we see with breast cancer, we see one man. Therefore the risk is low, particularly in comparison to cancers such as lung, prostate or colon. The National Cancer Registry states that the life-time risk of suffering breast cancer in males is in between 1 in 500 to 1 in 1000, depending on race. Men at any age may develop breast cancer, but it is usually detected in men between 60 and 70 years of age (compared to women, usually detected from the age of 30).

Is there an update on the incidence statistics of breast cancer in men?
There is no new data available.

Do men get the same types of breast cancer as women?
The following types of breast cancer are found in men:
Infiltrating ductal carcinoma: Cancer that has spread beyond the cells lining ducts in the breast. Most men with breast cancer have this type of cancer.
Ductal carcinoma in situ: Abnormal cells that are found in the lining of a duct; also called intraductal carcinoma.
Inflammatory breast cancer: A type of cancer in which the breast looks red and swollen and feels warm.
Paget disease of the nipple: A tumour that has grown from ducts beneath the nipple onto the surface of the nipple.
Lobular carcinoma in situ (abnormal cells found in one of the lobes or sections of the breast), which sometimes occurs in women, has not been seen in men.

Is there any updated research on the causes of breast cancer in men, treatment options etc.?
No, most research papers that I am aware of are single institution series. No organized trial has taken place to find the best therapy. The disease is just too rare.

What are the possible causes in men and does this include a family history?
Family history and known carriers of the breast cancer gene mutation BRCA-1 and 2 have a higher chance of breast cancer. The breast cancer risk of male BRCA carriers of suffering breast cancer is estimated at about 10% life-time. Conversely, a male with breast cancer has – depending on this ethnicity – a chance of 5 to 40% of being a BRCA mutation carrier. Since we have been testing all males with breast cancer at Tygerberg for BRCA mutations, we find in about 50% BRCA mutations. Therefore, a male with breast cancer is sounding an alarm bell for all the females in the family: there may be a BRCA mutation present. Other genes linked to breast cancer include P53, P65, ATM en CHECK2. Hereditary breast cancer makes up approximately 5% to 10% of all breast cancer. Some genes related to breast cancer are more common in certain ethnic groups.

Other risk factors include:
Being exposed to radiation.
Having a disease related to high levels of estrogen in the body, such as cirrhosis (liver disease) or Klinefelter syndrome (a genetic disorder).
How would breast cancer be detected in a man?
Men with breast cancer usually have lumps that can be felt.
As men’s breasts are usually not as big as women’s and a mass is therefore more easily palpated by the man. On the other hand, in contrast to women health care seeking behaviour in men is not well developed and most cases that we see are fairly advanced.

The following tests and procedures may be used:
Biopsy: The removal of cells or tissues so they can be viewed under a microscope by a pathologist to check for signs of cancer. The following are different types of biopsies:

Fine-needle aspiration (FNA) biopsy: The removal of tissue or fluid using a thin needle.
Core biopsy: The removal of tissue using a wide needle.

Excisional biopsy: The removal of an entire lump of tissue.
Estrogen and progesterone receptor test: A test to measure the amount of estrogen and progesterone (hormones) receptors in cancer tissue. If cancer is found in the breast, tissue from the tumour is checked in the laboratory to find out whether estrogen and progesterone could affect the way cancer grows. The test results show whether hormone therapy may stop the cancer from growing.

HER2 test: A test to measure the amount of HER2 in cancer tissue. HER2 is a growth factor protein that sends growth signals to cells. When cancer forms, the cells may make too much of the protein, causing more cancer cells to grow. If cancer is found in the breast, tissue from the tumour is checked in the laboratory to find out if there is too much HER2 in the cells. The test results show whether monoclonal antibody therapy may stop the cancer from growing.
Testing for BRCA 1 and 2 disease-causing mutations is mandatory.

What is the normal treatment?
Treatments for breast cancer in men and women are generally the same. Many men benefit from a combination of different treatments. Here's an overview of the various approaches:
Surgery. The typical treatment for men is a mastectomy, in which the entire breast is removed. Breast-conserving surgery -- in which just the tumour is taken out -- isn't usually possible for an obvious reason. Men don't have much breast tissue to begin with. The surgeon will also take out one or more of the lymph nodes to see if the cancer has spread.
Radiation Therapy. Treatment with radioactive rays or particles is standard after surgery. It's used to help kill off any cancer cells that were missed. In some cases, radiation may be the main treatment.
Chemotherapy. This is treatment with drugs -- either taken by mouth or by injection -- that attack cancer cells. Chemotherapy is often used after surgery to lower the risk of the cancer coming back. For men with advanced cancer or cancer that has spread to other parts of the body (metastatic cancer), chemotherapy may be the primary treatment.
Hormonal Therapy. Some kinds of breast cancer need certain hormones to grow. Hormonal therapy blocks the effects of these hormones, choking the cancer. Hormonal therapy is often more successful in men than in women. That's because more men -- about 75% -- have hormone receptor-positive cancer. Your doctor might use tamoxifen or other drugs. The effects of the new aromatase inhibitors like Arimidex and Femara -- as well as the drug Aromasin, known as an aromatase inactivator -- haven't been studied much in men. Sometimes, removal of the testes is used to reduce the amount of certain male hormones in the system. Men with breast cancer should never take testosterone.
Hormonal therapy is often used after surgery to lower the risk of the cancer coming back. For men with locally advanced or metastatic cancer, it may be the primary treatment.

Biological Therapy. This is a new approach. Some men have an excess of a protein that makes cancer spread quickly. Herceptin is a drug that's been approved to treat metastatic breast cancer. It stops this protein from making the cancer cells grow. It may also boost your immune system, giving it more strength to fight the cancer itself.

What role do male hormones and/or estrogen play?
Evidently hormones play an important role, but because the incidence of the disease in men is so rare, there is not intensive research available and the precise role of hormones is unknown.

Men that are treated with estrogen blockers – does this have an effect? E.g. mood swings, feeling irritated or angry.
Men have very limited side effects to estrogen blockers. We previously did orchidectomy (removal of the testes) as part of the hormonal treatment, however we found this to be problematic.

Are the chances of survival higher for men?
No – the chances for survival are lower than for women for a variety of reasons. The most important being that men are less likely to go to a doctor and therefore present themselves with advanced cancers. Due to the anatomy of the male torso with very little breast tissue, small tumours infiltrate early into surrounding tissue and easily gain access to blood and lymph vessels . They often spread early to distant organs such as the liver, bones and lungs.

If a man is diagnosed with breast cancer, does this increase the chances of his daughters developing cancer?
Yes. Each man that is diagnosed with breast cancer should go for genetic testing. The chances are high that he is a carrier of the breast cancer gene mutations and therefore this would be inherited by his children.

Arthur Rubinstein

Love life and life will love you back. Love people and they will love you back.
That’s it for the Morning Cruise, where we cruise through your weekday here on BushRadio 89.5fm live on your stereo between 9am – 12pm with me Denisia Adams. Take Care ... make the best of your day and Keep the Faith. Stay Real!!!!!!!!!!

Tuesday, October 20, 2009

Today we addressed fatigue - can you say end of year.. as well as a new international lung disease study

By Denisia Adams
1. Lasting but a short time; fleeting.
Where would you find Oyster Bay? In which province?
Answer: Eastern Cape

The picturesque village, Oyster Bay, were developed on a portion of the farm “Ou Werf”, which belonged to Mr. Henry Potgieter. The portion of the farm that Oyster Bay were developed on borders on the Indian Ocean. Mr. & Mrs. Carel and Phoebe van Tonder took the initiative and approached Mr. Henry Potgieter during 1956 to sell this part of his farm to them. He agreed and the van Tonders started developing it into a coastal resort. The name, Oyster Bay, probably was lent to the many Oyster banks found there then.

A vaccine-like shot that prevents cocaine users from getting high may also help fight addiction to the drug. The vaccine works by stimulating the immune system to produce antibodies that attach to the drug molecules and block them from reaching the brain, helping prevent users from getting a euphoric high. Approximately 40 percent of the participants in a recent study of the shot stopped or cut back their cocaine use as a result, at least temporarily. While the success was somewhat limited, the data show that the vaccine approach may be a viable option in the fight against drug addiction.

How to Receive Love
1.Trust people when they tell you that they love you. Whether it be an intimate relationship, a friendship, or a family relationship, it is important to accept the declaration of love at face value. If you are pushing aside the gift of their love for you because you are afraid that they do not mean it, then you prevent them from having the chance to prove that they do. It also might push them away from you, so that if you change your mind it may be to late.
2.Stop fearing loss. A common reason for not being able to receive love is prior experience of losing someone you loved, whether it was from death, a break-up, or for some other reason that has scarred you. If you spend all of your life pushing aside love given to you on the off-chance that the person offering it might withdraw it, you will always feel cynical and unsure, which is not a comfortable or happy place to be. Instead, embrace the love that they are offering and go with the flow, expecting those who offer you love to stay around.
3.Love yourself. This might be the hardest step of all but if you don't love yourself that much, receiving love is impossible because you don't believe that you deserve it. If this is the case, start working on why you can't love yourself so well, including seeking help to explore the issues involved if needed. Remember that every person is special and that you are very deserving of love.
4.Let love in and don't block it. Simply open your heart, live in the moment and cherish the fact that other people care so deeply about you that you are connected, needed, wanted, and included in the affairs and lives of others. Being open and receptive to the love from others can be learned with practice, provided you don't let cynicism and toughness take over. Let down some of those defenses and pride and let others know that you enjoy their deep care and support for you. And forget about keeping score; love others even if it is not reciprocated. As one large human family, it keeps going around and we receive it back again anyway.
5.Beware the voices of societal negativity. Social conditioning has a habit of making us feel wary of being effusive about and openly accepting of compliments, generosity, caring, and kind acts, lest we be seen as greedy, prideful, or selfish. Do not push aside the caring, wonderful things people have to say about you just because of such negative overlays; be appreciative and embracing of the love given out by others in all its forms. To do otherwise is to block receipt of love.
6.Show love. Receiving love is also about expressing love. Kiss your spouse and children, hug your friends, compliment your colleagues, say friendly and complimentary things to the grocery store clerks. Do this regularly.
7.Watch the experts at receiving love. Children are expert at receiving love because they accept what is said at face value and view receiving love as natural. What is also natural is that being able to receive love creates a balance in which you give and receive in equal measure. Take note of how children manage this beautifully - they ask for help when needed, they give help when asked. They offer compliments without a thought and they accept at face value the compliments that they are given. Re-learning what was once innate for you can restore a lot of happiness and trust in your life.
8.Share your feelings. When true feelings are shared, a trust is created, bond is created and friendly environment becomes available that acts as a catalyst in receiving and giving love.

Dr Eric Bateman from the UCT Lung Institute. The institute is embarking on an international research study and requires participants from the ages of 40 years and over. This particular research is looking at two new forms of treatment which are medication either inhaled or taking as a tablet which just improves the lung capacity of people already affected by lung diseases. Did you know the Western Cape because of the heritage of cigarette smoking has one of the highest incidences of smoking related lung disease? Hence the need for the institute in the Western Cape. Now to find out more and to get involved contact the UCT Lung Institute on 021 406 6924/ 021 406 6927.

Lastly we were joined by Pharmacist Roland Smit–Wright from the Wynberg Pharmacy in Cape Town. Smit-Wright joined us to discuss fatigue which is fairly appropriate especially since it’s almost end of year which = fatigue overdrive.
Tony Dorsett

To succeed... you need to find something to hold on to, something to motivate you, something to inspire you.
That’s it for the Morning Cruise, where we cruise through your weekday here on BushRadio 89.5fm live on your stereo between 9am – 12pm with me Denisia Adams. Take Care ... make the best of your day and Keep the Faith. Stay Real!!!!!!!!!!

Friday, October 16, 2009

We had THE Mac Mckenzie on the show as well as the soulful Dave Ferguson, check it out

By Denisia Adams

Fetor \FEE-tuhr; FEE-tor\

1. A strong, offensive smell; stench

Which well known SA dj is known for songs like remember when it rains and Love and Let love?
Answer: DJ SBU

When Leonardo da Vinci's Mona Lisa was stolen from the Louvre in 1912, 6 replicas were sold as the original, each at a huge price, in the 3 years before the original was recovered. ALSO DID YOU KNOW To save costs, the body of Shakespeare's friend and fellow dramatist, Ben Jonson, was buried standing up in Westminister Abbey, London in 1637.

How to be Patient Person
1. Try to figure out why you're in such a hurry.
We tend to lose our patience when we're multi-tasking or when we're on a tight schedule. If you're stretching yourself too thin, you should reconsider your to-do list before you attempt to change your natural reaction to an overwhelming situation. Try to spread out your tasks so that you're doing only one thing at a time. Delegate responsibilities to others if you can; this in itself may be a test of your patience, but you have to learn to share the load.
2. Pinpoint the triggers that often make you lose your patience. Impatience creeps in insidiously, and if you feel anxious, worried, or unhappy you may not even realize that the underlying cause of these feelings is impatience. To reduce the frequency of impatience, it helps to be aware of it. Which events, people, phrases or circumstances always seem to make you lose your cool? Sit down and make a list of all the things which cause you anxiety, tension, or frustration. At the core of most triggers is a reality that we have a hard time accepting. What are those realities for you?
3. Overcome bouts of impatience. In the long run, developing patience requires a change in your attitude about life, but you can immediately make progress by learning to relax whenever you feel impatient. Take a few deep breaths and just try to clear your mind. Concentrate on breathing and you'll be able to get your bearings.
4. Look for patterns. Being aware of your impatience also gives you a chance to learn from it and perhaps uncover a relationship or circumstance that is simply not healthy or constructive, and that you may have the power to change. Figure that out, and you can then think logically about the problem issue and decide whether or not your impatience is warranted or helpful. It usually isn't, but when it is you can then figure out ways to fix the root problem rather than simply feeling stressed about it.
5. Let go if you can't do anything about the impatience trigger. If there isn't anything that you can do to resolve whatever has triggered your impatience, just let it go. Easier said than done, yes, but it's possible, and it's the only healthy thing to do. Initially, you will probably find it difficult to let go if the matter is important to you--waiting to hear back after a job interview, for instance--but you should be able to alleviate impatience that's caused by issues of less consequence (i.e. waiting in line at the grocery store). If you make a concerted effort to be more patient in relatively inconsequential, short-term situations, you'll gradually develop the strength to remain patient in even the most trying and enduring situations.
6. Remind yourself that things take time. People who are impatient are people who insist on getting things done now and don't like to waste time. However, some things just can't be rushed. Think about your happiest memories. Chances are, they were instances when your patience paid off, like when you worked steadily towards a goal that wasn't immediately gratifying, or took a little extra time to spend leisurely with a loved one. Would you have those memories if you had been impatient? Probably not. Almost anything really good in life takes time and dedication, and if you're impatient, you're more likely to give up on relationships, goals, and other things that are important to you. Good things may not always come to those who wait, but most good things that do come don't come right away.
7. Expect the unexpected. Yes, you have plans, but things don't always work out as planned. Accept the twist and turns in life gracefully. Keep your expectations realistic. This applies not only to circumstances, but also the behavior of those around you. If you find yourself blowing up over your child or your spouse accidentally spilling a drink, you're not in touch with the fact that people aren't perfect. Even if the occasion is not an isolated incident but is instead caused by their repeated neglect and carelessness, losing your patience isn't going to make it any better. That's something to be addressed with discussion and self-control.
8. Give yourself a break. The meaning of this is twofold. First, take a few minutes to do absolutely nothing. Just sit quietly and think. Don't watch television; don't even read. Do nothing. It may be hard at first, and you may even feel pretty impatient after a minute or two, but by taking some time out you can essentially slow your world down, and that's important to develop the attitude necessary to develop patience. Second, stop holding yourself and the world around you to unreachable standards. Sure, we'd all be more patient if babies didn't cry, dishes didn't break, computers didn't crash, and people didn't make mistakes--but that's never going to happen. Expecting the world to run smoothly is like beating your head against the wall. Give yourself a break.
9. Remember what matters. Not focusing on what matters most in this life fuels impatience. Move the world toward peace by being kind, generous in forgiveness of others, being grateful for what is, and taking full advantage of what matters most. When other less important things fuel our impatience, taking time to remember any one of these items reduces our tendency to want something different right now.

The Mac Mckenzie. Mac Mckenzie whose been desribed as, “A musical role call of alumni, centered around the delightfully romantic composer lauriet of the city”, “…re-emergence of goema, the unique music of Cape Town City”. He joined us to speak about his passion for music and the composition thereof as well as his NPO, the Composers’ Workshop in Bridgetown Cape Town which was launched 29th September 2009. This is where aspiring musicians can develop their skills and embrace their talent alongside some of the great South African composers and musicians and at no cost. To find out more contact 021-637 3695.

Lastly we spoke to the soulful Dave Ferguson. After a long break Dave and the Lonesharks are back with their highly entertaining "true to the genre" Chicago Blues band, they play their own brand of Blues mixed with Louisiana Cajun and Zydeco with the recommended daily allowance of Country Twang. Expect energetic Blues-harp driven tunes and an unavoidable good time. They’ll be performing this Saturday 17 Oct ’09 at Fogeys in Muizenberg.

Archbishop Desmond Tutu,
Nobel Peace Prize winner
We are made for loving. If we don’t love, we will be like plants without water.
That’s it for the Morning Cruise, where we cruise through your weekday here on BushRadio 89.5fm live on your stereo between 9am – 12pm with me Denisia Adams. Take Care ... make the best of your day and Keep the Faith. Stay Real!!!!!!!!!!